Posts Tagged ‘organizing’

SO…Change!

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

SO…my oldest (length of time, not age!) and dearest friend Ginny came for a visit a few weeks ago from Florida. About a year ago, she started a company called Mindful Organics, (www.mindfulorganics.com) and she needed to take some food-related courses here in NY.

While we’ve been friends forever, we couldn’t be more different when it comes to food. Ginny only eats organic foods and is a vegetarian, while I consider M&M’s to be one of the four basic food groups. But while we differ in what we eat, we have a lot of similarities; we’re both very passionate about what we do and she lives organic, the way I live organized. Ginny teaches you how to take control of your life and your health through proper nutrition. I teach you how to take control of your life and achieve peace of mind by organizing your time and space. Candy M&M's

SO, if you’ve been feeling that you’re life is a little out-of-control lately, maybe you’re ready for a change. Keep in mind, change is hard. And because it’s hard we often find ourselves slipping back into our old ways without even realizing it. How do you know if you’re ready to do what it takes to make a change? As my friend and fellow organizer, Diana Zimmerman likes to say, “When the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change”, you know you’re ready.

Ginny and I both work with clients who are motivated and ready for change. Our clients recognize that change is a process; they didn’t arrive where they are overnight, and their issues won’t be fixed in a day. But if the desire to change exists, then you’ll be successful.

Sometimes you want to help someone make a change, feeling it’s in their best interest. I often receive calls from people who want to purchase my organizing services for a relative or a friend as a gift, and the first question I ask is if the recipient wants to become organized. If the answer is no, then it will be a waste of time and money. The person has to want to change or it’s not going to happen.

Assortment of fresh vegetables and fruit

I experienced this first-hand when Ginny came to visit. I’ll admit, since my last visit to her, I’ve swapped almond butter for peanut butter. But I’m not a fish eater and I’m not giving up my meats. The truth is, I don’t want to change what I eat or how I eat, but I’m willing to admit that I could be a little healthier. So, Ginny encouraged me to replace the whole milk for my family with organic whole milk and to use organic meats and organic veggies. That I could do, without it being too painful. Besides, when she got through telling my daughter all the terrible things that were on the blueberries I’d bought (non-organic) she wasn’t eating them anyway.

SO…while I’m not ready for total change, I am willing to take small steps to being healthier. Change is hard and sometimes change can happen in little steps…as long as you’re ready for it!

I’d love to hear your thoughts about change…

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SO… Not Perfect!

Sunday, December 20th, 2009

“I’m human and I’m not perfect”…said Tiger Woods recently. The truth is, nobody’s perfect, yet many of us still seek perfection as one of our goals. Do we do this because we choose to set ourselves up for failure or because we know we can’t attain it, so why try?iStock_000008017404Medium

I guess it’s a little bit of both. And there’s a third element…the outside perception of perfection. All three create stress and at least the first two, are within our control to change.

My clients who are “perfection seekers” all have one thing in common: They can’t seem to get anything done. Why? Because if it can’t be perfect, as in, “I can’t organize my closet because I don’t have the right closet system, so it’ll never be perfect…” or “I need to find the perfect filing system, and until I do, I can’t file any of my papers”…they’d rather not do it all. Of course, all this only adds to the stress and guilt surrounding the project, but now they have an “excuse”. Well, I’m not buying it. Holding out for perfection, is just a form of procrastination, and until the stress of “not doing” outweighs the stress of “doing”, procrastinators are likely to keep putting things off as long as possible.

I had one client, a female professional, who admitted she was a perfectionist. In fact, in her work, her perfectionism was a source of pride. However, her perfectionism was also the source of her poor time management skills. She was always late: late to work, late for each patient and late to come home. It became a vicious cycle. She felt she needed a “system”, the system, to help her overcome her problems. Yet she was actually very organized and had systems in place that did work for her. Bottom line: While she claimed to want to be home with her husband and baby, I think she was unhappy with her home life and therefore her tardiness became a coping technique. The goal of perfection, however, is more acceptable at times, than dealing with the reality of a situation. Remember, the goal of being organized is to have your life run more smoothly, not perfectly, and if your life runs more smoothly, then you may have to deal with the areas that aren’t working quite as well.

iStock_000003352653Medium The perception of perfection is another matter altogether. It’s the image not only that a person portrays, but one that is put upon them. Whether it be Tiger Woods, or Martha Stewart, they’re not perfect. But we could all learn something from their work ethic…they work extremely hard to be the best in their field. Being the best requires setting goals, attainable goals…not perfection.

SO, to all the perfectionists out there…try being a little more human and set some attainable goals. Once you feel a little success you’ll want more.

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